Friday, 5 February 2016
Thursday, 4 February 2016
Sarka Pude [Move Ahead] -By Anu Mehta
Move ahead; Sarka Pude; Sarka Pude is a Marathi word which means
move ahead. When we go to the Lord Ganesh Temple Siddhi Vinayank the watchman
says Sarka Pude{move ahead] The question to ask ourselves is that If we are not
allowed to stand in God’s
temple for longer then three minutes then why do people stand in their shit for so
long.
Divorce or
Separation teaches us the art of Sarka Pude. End to a marriage does
not imply putting an end to all other relationships, but simply opens
up various other avenues to form stronger bonds with other equally important
people. In other words, the end of ones marriage can be alternatively be the next step of the parting partners towards
giving themselves another chance to get out of the bondages of an obsolete
relationship and step into a better relationship with others and themselves.
Divorce thus can help the parting
partners to transform vulnerability, shame and guilt into respect and self-love giving themselves another
chance and step into a better relationship with others and us.
Written b y Anu Mehta
Wednesday, 3 February 2016
Say No - By Anu Mehta
People get married as they think
that this bond of marriage and togetherness is forever. Seven mantras and vows of
wedding are all around companionship,
togetherness, loyalty, understanding, protection, love,
hope, care, and trust, security and safety.Yet people can't sign peace with things that happen in marriage in the name of love.
Below are two steps which will help you to sign peace in marriage or a partnership;
Women/men may learn to say No and take decisions.
Women may have
never have taken any decision of their life without consulting their fathers,
brothers, boyfriends or husbands. General understanding is if she knows how to
cook, and please her family and her husbands family then she is doing great.
During fighting for divorce she learns to put her foot down and say no. She takes away the ability from
other people to throw muck on her character. She understands that only one who knows how she feels is she
herself. After putting up with
years of garbage she is allows herself a safe exit from obsolete relationship. She
learns to see her pain, to hear and understand herself and allow her to feel
the void and make herself safe and secure. She learns to
be financially and emotionally independent stops giving excuses to stay in the
abusive obsolete relationship.
Men may no know how to say NO to their mother,sisters and his wife. He feels like a puppet in between. He may not be able to define boundaries for both of them. He may also spend more time dominating this wife rather than forming companionship with her.Thus relationship may be difficult for him to maintain because he is more worried about looking good in front of his folks and his wife.
Don’t live others dream:
In marriage everyone expects the women/man to live up to others and their partner’s
expectation. When she/he moves out
of out of the bondages of an obsolete relationship
she/he gives herself a chance to live her/his dreams and do what she/he wants
to and in the way they want to
these points may help you lead better life and sign peace in relationships.
